What is the “perfect match” for you? And why does that “match” inevitably light and burn you? Instead of avoiding the negative traits we as children experienced in parents and others, we seem to continue to want to “play with matches!” Does this somehow help our growth? If you are in conflict, weirdly enough, you are well on your way to self-repair. Your sense of safety and security is the first priority. By the time you seek help, feeling out of control, helpless or hopeless can be common. You can expect self-care vitals to be checked and to take on more positive focus and intentions. Your “prescription” will be steps that you can take yourself that very week to increase your level of peace and wellbeing. Conflict is seen as the beginning, not the end, of the relationship, and blame is left at the door. This is usually invitation enough for an unwilling partner. Single and looking? Your self-knowledge and ability to communicate your needs effectively will translate into less pain and more suitable matches. Of course, the person working on bettering their relationship with themselves will benefit greatly from this training and can find plenty of fodder in the lives around them to begin and maintain the work. A couples session is about an hour and a half long (80 minutes). The cost is $200 per session. Individual sessions, unless otherwise stated, are the usual 50 minutes. The cost is $120. Methods of payment include check and cash (credit cards may be available at a fee). Financial assistance is sometimes available; please ask if you feel your situation qualifies. Paying at the beginning is suggested for the smoothest transition back into the “real” world at the end of a session. To maintain my clinical independence and your confidentiality, I have chosen not to be affiliated with any managed health organization at this time. I am available: Tue & Thu 12-9 pm, and Wed & Sun 12-4pm. Rescheduling within the same week, or canceling with at least three days in advance requires no charge. Otherwise, the full amount is due. Telephone sessions and video conferencing will be options as well. Please plan for a minimum of 10-12 sessions. Your willingness and actions can accomplish quick results. However, it takes some time and discipline to integrate this body of knowledge and to hone these relationship skills. You are worth it!